One of the most important relationships we can form, in my opinion, is friendship. But it gets harder in adult life. It’s easy to make and keep friends when you’re young, relationships formed in school/college spill over into your social life. When you start working it gets a little more difficult, and when you ‘settle down’ with someone and start a family, it’s a lot more difficult. Life just goes on and ‘stuff’ gets in the way of keeping touch with friends. It starts taking real effort to make time for friends.
I’ve been very lucky to make some really great friends, both when I was young and recently enough. I’m also very lucky in that I can put my husband in that ‘great friends’ category. I know some people that genuinely can’t do that! Of course I’ve also been let down by friends .. I always give people the benefit of the doubt, always want people to be good, I’d rather be like this than be expecting to be let down but it does often lead to being let down
I consider friendship to mean being there for someone, making them laugh, being honest with them and putting yourself out if necessary. The friends I have in my life right now are amazing. I know I can call them any time and for any reason, they’re fun to be around, they’ll be brutally honest even if it’s what I don’t want to hear and, most of all, I really look forward to being in their company.
What I don’t like is people that consider you a friend yet do not tell the truth, get you involved in situations you really don’t need to be involved in and generally take advantage. Unfortunately I’ve met my fair share of them. I try to think of these people as ‘character building’ 😉
Maybe I just have too simplistic a view of what friendship should be?
That’s so very true Mel. We always find out who our real friends are at a time of need. Sadly it’s not always those you really thought were too.
Beautiful post, and I completely agree with you both in the importance of friendship and in what it means to be a friend.
I couldnt agree with you more. People come in and out of our lives but its only true friends that stay.
Unfortunately we all meet people through out lives that we think are our friends but its not until they let us down that we realise that they are only there for themselves.
A true friend will put themself out for you, be there for you and never judge you.
Unfortunately we have to meet these “false friends” to value the real true friends that we have.
You are a very special person and anyone that knows you will know that you are indeed one of those very special friends.
*Friends are like stars in the sky
You dont always see them
But you know that they are always there*
xxxx
I love that you’re back writing again & I’m also loving this post.
Great friends, both in the flesh & online, are what have gotten be through the last few weeks. For that I am ever grateful.
Keep up the writing chica. x
What a lovely post Mel. And so true. It is so disappointing when someone you think is a friend either uses you or lets you down – or both. Thankfully I’ve only had a couple like that over the years. I’m honoured to call you a friend 🙂
Really beautiful post Mel. Its so true, i’ve had friends let me down alot too and like you, I always gave the benefit of the doubt to them but, we arent really in touch anymore so I think its made me learn not trust as easily…but still, character building! 😉
And like Sian, honoured to call you a friend. xxx
Very heartfelt post again Mel , You really do know the true meaning of friendship 🙂 and have been a very good friend to me. x